Valentine’s Day is here—a time for hearts, flowers, and love. But what if love feels like a distant memory? What if the only thing you feel is burnt out, numb, and stuck in survival mode? You’re not alone, and it’s not your fault. When you’ve been giving everything to your family, it’s easy to lose touch with yourself.
The good news? You can reclaim your self-love and start feeling alive again. It’s not about bubble baths or box-ticking self-care routines. It’s about reconnecting with yourself in ways that feel real and doable—even in the chaos of motherhood.
Here’s how you can start shifting from surviving to thriving:
Recognise What’s Holding You Back
Burnout and emotional numbness often stem from unrealistic expectations and constant giving without refilling your own cup. Ask yourself:
- When was the last time I truly rested—without guilt?
- What would I say to a friend who was feeling this way?
Awareness is the first step. Once you recognize what’s keeping you stuck, you can start making small changes.
Prioritise U Time—No Guilt Allowed
Remember, U Time is time for YOU. It’s not selfish; it’s necessary. Even 10–15 minutes a day to do something just for you— reading, meditating, or sitting quietly with a cup of tea—can help you reset.
Start small and build from there. You don’t need hours of free time to feel the benefits. The key is consistency and letting go of mum guilt.
Rebuild Your Connection with Yourself
When you’re in survival mode, it’s easy to forget what lights you up. Take a moment to think about the things that once made you feel alive. Was it dancing, journaling, walking in nature, or creating something?
(for some inspiration download your Muma Got Goals Free Goal Book below this blog article)
Try weaving one of those things back into your life, even if it’s only once a week.
Be Kind to Yourself
Self-love starts with self-compassion. When you feel frustrated or stuck, treat yourself the way you’d treat your child—with patience and understanding. Instead of beating yourself up, remind yourself that progress is more important than perfection.
Ask for Support
Sometimes, the strongest thing you can do is ask for help. Whether it’s a friend, partner, or coach, reaching out can make all the difference. You don’t have to figure it all out alone.
Coaching and hypnotherapy can help you untangle those overwhelming thoughts and guide you back to feeling more like yourself again. It’s not about fixing you—it’s about helping you rediscover your power and joy.
It’s easy to put yourself last as a mum, but the truth is, you can’t pour from an empty cup. This Valentine’s Day, give yourself the gift of self-love. Start small, be kind to yourself, and take steps to reconnect with who you are.
And remember, you’re not meant to do it all alone. If you’re ready to break free from survival mode, coaching and hypnotherapy can help you reclaim your calm, confidence, and joy. email me [email protected] to arrange a chat.
You’ve got this, and you deserve it.
Much Love, Em x
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