Writing Is Like Role Play

I’m so lucky to work with children. They constantly teach and remind me of what I most need to remember every-day.

When starting something new, like writing a book, we tend to take the pursuit so seriously. I did anyway.

When I returned from a holiday break this Easter, I realised how much I’d missed the little ones I care for role playing with one another. As I overheard their made-up stories about pink trees and grumpy uncle Stan with the wonky pose, I mused at their understanding of one another’s description and eagerness to continue adding to the story the other had begun.

It made no sense to a grown up like me listening in but those pre-schoolers knew exactly what the story was about.

They were using their imagination.

They were being creative.

They were playing.

They didn’t even stop to question the correctness of what they were saying, they cared not that the trees aren’t really pink and its nose and not pose.

They just didn’t care.

They got it.

They understood the point of what they were doing.

They were in joy.

They were sharing their stories and they just understood one another perfectly.

This helped me put writing into perspective. And life itself.

Both are meant to be an expression of my creativity and joy. Not an enduring chore that I must get factually correct, with no mistakes or typos in sight.

If a reader resonates with me or my story, then just like the toddlers in role play, they will get my message, they’ll hear my story and to them it will make sense. They won’t need to criticise or find fault.

That’s my reward. I’ve exercised my imagination and expressed myself. Interpretation and understanding-that’s the readers reward, just like connection, play, and joy is the children’s role play reward, when they understand one another.

They don’t expect to be right, get recognition or earn any money from it.

They do it just because they love it. 

I never correct a pink tree story because, I know in their happy world, the trees are pink. I prefer pink to green anyway. You can argue for correctness, I just love to write.

Keep Scribbling,

Em x

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SECRET STORY

Do you have a secret story to tell?

It has become apparent to me that I’m not the only person in the writing community that has a secret story.

It seems common for us writers to scribble away on a piece of writing we never plan to let see the light of day. For whatever reason, (embarrassment, fear of what others will think of us or the judgement our words may receive) we decide this will be a private rendezvous between ourselves and the page.

A sordid little affair that we indulge in when the urge takes our fancy. Nothing serious, just fun. Or maybe we take it so seriously that, we pour our heart and soul and the wounds we’ve incurred onto the page, in the hope of self-healing somehow?

Writing from the heart.

Either way, we are afraid that someone might read our words and get to know us. The real person deep inside. Whether that’s the lighter fun side of ourselves or the deeper darker self, we want to keep that part of us a secret.

Its unfortunate if we do, as this is likely where our passions, talents and our true beliefs are kept.

Like nuggets of gold that need uncovering and sharing, with a world of interested people who, if of like mind, will appreciate the beauty that’s been buried for so long.

But there’s a block in mining those treasures. It keeps the riches of our souls to ourselves. It’s the one thing we need which is within.

CONFIDENCE!

SELF-CONFIDENCE

Confidence is the only thing that impedes our progress on our writing journey.

No one is born a great writer.

No one has all the answers.

No one is truly original.

No one can write something that will appeal to everyone.

But you can write your truth, your way.

You can learn to be a great writer, with practice. And you most certainly can write something that will appeal and resonate with someone.

I’m sure your secret story is not a one off. There are other people who have shared similar stories. If not, you can help others to avoid experiencing the same story if unfavourable or help them to achieve the same story if its a good one, teach, reach or at the very least entertain.

No matter how new or old you are in your writing life, with nearly 8 billion people on the planet, someone will laugh at your jokes, cry at your sorrow and get motivated by your anecdotes.

READING FOR WHATEVER REASON.

Anyone who reads your words will certainly undergo a change in some way, whether positive or negative, consciously or subconsciously, the mind is moulded and modified by the information it receives.

So, allow yourself to be exposed, get naked in your writing, this is your sea to go skinny dipping in.

You may pen a far-fetched fantasy, that some won’t stretch their minds to envision. Their imagination is not your problem. If you’ve had fun on the adventure, others will surely too. But if its left festering in a drawer somewhere, like a deep, dark, dirty secret, then you are denying yourself a chance to find out where your words can take you. Worse still, you deny your readers the gold they may be seeking in their lives.

Have the confidence to try.

The truth is, you’ll never know if something you write is good or bad, until you let it go out into the world and let it be judged. Then it’s only the person judging’s opinion and not necessarily a fact. Every reader will perceive your writing differently, as every person perceives their reality differently in life.

I can watch a film with my husband where he laughs all the way through, when all I feel like doing is crying. You see, we are hearing the same words and watching the same characters but feeling different feelings.

You have to be brave. Be bold. Be honest. This is what it takes to share a secret. To be open and vulnerable takes trust.

Trust in yourself.

Trust in the writing process.

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” Helen Keller

It takes confidence to overcome resistance. Whether you are guarding a far-out spiritual manuscript on unicorns, a hot and steamy erotica or an encyclopaedia on steam trains, you were inspired to put the pen to paper for a purpose.

Don’t shy away from your story, embrace it and others will too.

Can you summon that power that calls you to create and share?

Keep Scribbling,

Em x

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