SECRET STORY

Do you have a secret story to tell?

It has become apparent to me that I’m not the only person in the writing community that has a secret story.

It seems common for us writers to scribble away on a piece of writing we never plan to let see the light of day. For whatever reason, (embarrassment, fear of what others will think of us or the judgement our words may receive) we decide this will be a private rendezvous between ourselves and the page.

A sordid little affair that we indulge in when the urge takes our fancy. Nothing serious, just fun. Or maybe we take it so seriously that, we pour our heart and soul and the wounds we’ve incurred onto the page, in the hope of self-healing somehow?

Writing from the heart.

Either way, we are afraid that someone might read our words and get to know us. The real person deep inside. Whether that’s the lighter fun side of ourselves or the deeper darker self, we want to keep that part of us a secret.

Its unfortunate if we do, as this is likely where our passions, talents and our true beliefs are kept.

Like nuggets of gold that need uncovering and sharing, with a world of interested people who, if of like mind, will appreciate the beauty that’s been buried for so long.

But there’s a block in mining those treasures. It keeps the riches of our souls to ourselves. It’s the one thing we need which is within.

CONFIDENCE!

SELF-CONFIDENCE

Confidence is the only thing that impedes our progress on our writing journey.

No one is born a great writer.

No one has all the answers.

No one is truly original.

No one can write something that will appeal to everyone.

But you can write your truth, your way.

You can learn to be a great writer, with practice. And you most certainly can write something that will appeal and resonate with someone.

I’m sure your secret story is not a one off. There are other people who have shared similar stories. If not, you can help others to avoid experiencing the same story if unfavourable or help them to achieve the same story if its a good one, teach, reach or at the very least entertain.

No matter how new or old you are in your writing life, with nearly 8 billion people on the planet, someone will laugh at your jokes, cry at your sorrow and get motivated by your anecdotes.

READING FOR WHATEVER REASON.

Anyone who reads your words will certainly undergo a change in some way, whether positive or negative, consciously or subconsciously, the mind is moulded and modified by the information it receives.

So, allow yourself to be exposed, get naked in your writing, this is your sea to go skinny dipping in.

You may pen a far-fetched fantasy, that some won’t stretch their minds to envision. Their imagination is not your problem. If you’ve had fun on the adventure, others will surely too. But if its left festering in a drawer somewhere, like a deep, dark, dirty secret, then you are denying yourself a chance to find out where your words can take you. Worse still, you deny your readers the gold they may be seeking in their lives.

Have the confidence to try.

The truth is, you’ll never know if something you write is good or bad, until you let it go out into the world and let it be judged. Then it’s only the person judging’s opinion and not necessarily a fact. Every reader will perceive your writing differently, as every person perceives their reality differently in life.

I can watch a film with my husband where he laughs all the way through, when all I feel like doing is crying. You see, we are hearing the same words and watching the same characters but feeling different feelings.

You have to be brave. Be bold. Be honest. This is what it takes to share a secret. To be open and vulnerable takes trust.

Trust in yourself.

Trust in the writing process.

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” Helen Keller

It takes confidence to overcome resistance. Whether you are guarding a far-out spiritual manuscript on unicorns, a hot and steamy erotica or an encyclopaedia on steam trains, you were inspired to put the pen to paper for a purpose.

Don’t shy away from your story, embrace it and others will too.

Can you summon that power that calls you to create and share?

Keep Scribbling,

Em x

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WHY DO YOU WRITE?

You’ll be amazed at how many writers never ask themselves this question or if they do, never answer it honestly. But if you don’t know why, then you’ll most certainly not end up achieving what you really want from your writing.

This is a question I’ve had to ask myself a lot over the last decade. I’ve been writing books, blogs, scripts, magazine articles, journals, and still, I ask ‘Why?’

And still I question if I am even a writer. A writer writes full time as a job don’t they? Or at the very least, get paid to write.

Serious writing is not just a side hustle. If it’s something you only do when you fancy it, surely you’re just a hobbyist, not a real writer?

Does it even matter whether you’re a real writer or how, when or what you write?

The only question is why?

We will all have different reasons why we write but hopefully the main one is because we enjoy it. We cannot, not write. It’s in our blood. Whether good or bad writers, we are born with this urge that takes over our lives. Like an addiction, it can affect our relationships, social life and work.

When I’m swept up in words, I can happily ignore the mountain of ironing, the dog that needs a walk and the planned movie night with a loved one.

The therapist in me knows that its not my fault. Some people drink alcohol, take drugs, have sex addictions, or eat for fun, I like to write. And that’s alright with me.

Sometimes I write things that I’m proud of, other times I write rubbish, but that’s okay too because- I write for me.

That’s why writing is my side hustle, my hobby, and not my full-time job, because if I had to produce perfection or even good stuff on a daily basis, I wouldn’t enjoy it anymore. I wouldn’t feel free or creative if someone else told me what I had to write about, when, and how.

So why do you write?

Keep scribbling,

Em x

While Magpies Danced on the Decking I Dreamed.

I spent years reading, listening, and wondering about magic and miracles?

Six for silver, seven for gold or was that for a secret never to be told?

There was evidence in my daily life when I saw those around me that they didn’t exist, yet as the magpies danced on my decking, I read about writers’, musicians, artists, gurus,  professionals and the like, who told me in no uncertain terms they existed, they were possible and real.

I pondered, maybe I didn’t need a miracle or to experience magic as all was going… well …. normal and good in my life?

Or maybe I’d missed them?

Maybe they were there but I couldn’t identify them?

Until recently, when I won a writing competition to get my book published worldwide. In that moment I felt synchronicity, that serendipitous, deliciousness when I had taken action at precisely the right time, and my path had crossed another who was looking for someone like me. I felt it must be a miracle as my book had sat idle on my laptop for ten years. Now before my very eyes two books had blossomed over -night, and in that moment when I won, I knew there was magic in the air. I felt excited, even more so than any child could ever on Christmas morning. This was a long-awaited moment whose time had come.

But to any other on looker, stranger, friend or family member, it was just an ordinary, mundane moment in time. Not for me, I for the first time felt the magic, experienced a miracle slowly unfold and now, I could at last join those other positivity preachers, who gave me faith and hope along my way, when years went by that were certainly grey. When progress never shifted, not even an inch and I dreamed of the life I felt I should be living.

Do you have a dream in you?

Do you want a miracle or a sprinkling of magic to shimmy up your life?

What desires have you put off over the years that need rekindling?

You know, the ones you feel sad to recall, the ones you feel jealous and envious that others have achieved. The ones that ignite anger or injustice for escaping you. The ones you feel you’re too young, too old, too poor, too uneducated, too unexperienced to begin now?

The dreams buried so deep not even an excavator could dig them up?

That’s your miracle waiting, that’s your magic!

It’s time to start your enchanted journey. Discover for real what’s possible for you and what’s not, there’s value in both, for when the day arrives and you’re forced to look back upon the days when anything was possible, you’ll wonder why you never proved yourself right or wrong?

Why you did nothing.

There’s pain and suffering in the not knowing and the inertia of not even trying. So, by going for your dreams and desires or simple fleeting fancies, what do you have to lose right now?

Don’t cling to regret like its going to justify your existence, it won’t. Grab hold of your destiny where ever that may take you, pick up that paint brush, open that gallery, chuck clay on your wheel, shoot that landscape, open that cake shop, scribble in the coffee shop or sing in the choir of your local church.

Take the risk. Make the steps you walk count and the words you utter matter. Because they do, if not for you for all those you encounter!

Stay Present,

Em x

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