At the beginning of every New Year, I sit down and plan my year ahead. I write down my dreams, desires and goals.
Then I compile a list of ‘To Do’s’ to help me achieve them, which usually motivates me to get going.
To get busy weaving my dreams into reality.
But one thing 2020 has taught me is that, even my best laid plans can go awry. Although I had big goals for last year, the most important ones I achieved were not through planning or doing but through unforeseen circumstances and just going with the flow and ‘being’.
Spending more family ‘Us Time’ present in the moment and feeling relaxed and content just doing nothing, happened naturally during lockdown.
Having time to get both of my books completed and published arose from a misfortunate Covid-19 set of circumstances, forcing me to close my childcare business for months.
Appreciating friends and family more was another side effect of being kept apart from those I loved.
And being grateful for everything I had, such as my business, my home and family became enough to make me stop and see that- I already had everything I needed and wanted in life.
So today on January the 1st 2021, as I sit in the warm glow of sweet-scented candlelight, notebook and pen in hand, ready to plan 2021, there’s only one goal on my list this year and that’s simply to enjoy each and every moment with those I love.
Sometimes those perceived disappointments in life, such as that lost job opportunity, redundancy, divorce or sickness, all fool us into thinking they are unfortunate events.
That God, The Universe or Lady
Luck is not really listening or not really there!
But there’s always a force
greater than us at work on our behalf.
Those things are meant to be a way of directing us in a different direction, for good reason. Although that may not be apparent right now, all will become clear in the not so distant future.
FORTUNE CAN MAKE US REDUNDANT
When my Husband was being made
redundant, everyone I told sympathized with my plight.
‘Oh, no poor you, what are you
going to do?
Not one person could see the
positive in the situation.
This amazed me as it was the
best thing that could have ever happened to us.
We had spoken of my Husband
joining me in my Childminding business as he was working away a lot and
travelling home late in the evenings, missing time with our young children. Often,
they’d be in bed by the time he arrived home.
My business was growing and I
had a waiting list of children waiting for childcare, needing my services but I
was limited by how many children I could care for, governed by professional
We didn’t feel brave enough
for both of us to take the risk of being self-employed together. On top of that,
we knew it would take at least a year for my husband to train and become
registered as a childminder, a year of not working we couldn’t afford him to
Then like magic, all our
prayers had been answered at once.
He was made redundant so he
got redundancy pay. Not much but we then had payment protection on our mortgage
which paid our mortgage for a whole year, plus they had a back to work
incentive and paid for his training to become a childminder. By the time the
payment protection had ended, he was registered and able to start working
straight away, and we have never looked back.
A PRICELESS OPPORTUNITY
We spend every day together, while
he has played with, cared for, and watched our children grow up. Being a hands-on
Dad has enabled him to take our children to and from school every day and watch
their school concerts.
As well as all of those lovely
perks, we have expanded our business to twice its size, earning us more income
than we’ve ever had, all from the comfort of our family home. No more commuting
cross country, with the added blessing that our house is always filled with
children, who fill our home and life with love and laughter, which is
Had we perceived the
redundancy as negative, it could well have taken us on a different path.
Life knew better than us, she had
a better, bigger more loving plan for not only us, but the hundreds of children
including our own, that we’ve had the pleasure of taking care of over the
Sometimes all we can see is our current circumstances, and if they don’t look too good at the time, life can get us down. My life story, like most peoples, didn’t start off too good but turned out even better than I could ever have imagined. It too has a positive redundancy story line.
started with a list.
remember while in work, bored one day in a photographic retail job, for no
reason, grabbing a piece of paper from the printer and making a five-year plan.
it was a list really of five things I wanted to achieve, within the next five
years. It went something like this.
Give up smoking.
Get married in the Caribbean.
Buy a house.
Have two children a boy and a girl specifically.
Have my own business working from home.
Again, as if by
magic it would seem Lady Life was humorously looking down upon
my list and as a sarcastic joke, offered me the opposite to what I wanted…or
My plans to buy the
house I was renting were dashed within days of writing that list, with news
that, I was being faced with redundancy as where I worked was closing down.
My then boyfriend also decided to leave me, which seen my smoking habit increase, and demolished my plans of getting married in the Caribbean and having two children.
But actually, Lady
Life heard me.
She knew what I
wanted and she cleared the way for me to recognize its possibility in my life.
Some may have
temporarily given up on their dreams at this point.
I was at an all-time
low and my Nan who had brought me up as my Mum, had died too at the same time.
That’s when I was head hunted. I was sat in work seeing out my final weeks before redundancy, wondering what on earth I was going to do, when a manager from a business next door came in and asked me to go for an interview, as they were looking for someone to do what I was doing, selling digital cameras in their company!!!
I was reluctant to
go for the interview at first, as it was doing the same boring job I was
already doing, which I hated. Fortunately, my current manager urged me to go
for the interview in order to keep my options open, as time was running out and
I hadn’t even looked for another job yet. So, I went for the interview.
As I wasn’t keen
on getting the job I was quite laid back, calm and relaxed in the interview. So
much so, I had blagged a huge pay rise compared to what I was earning in my
I had negotiated saying I earnt more when I didn’t, and that I wanted to earn more than that again. They didn’t hesitate in giving me what I asked for. I was one of the highest paid sales person’s on a salary, in the whole company. Having this new job and increase in income, I applied for a mortgage as quick as I could, (banks were not willing to lend you money unless you had been in your job at least six months) so I had to act fast before I left my old job and started my new one, which was weeks away.
The mortgage went
through within weeks, and was final just as I started my new job. That was one
thing achieved from my five-year plan already.
Then in my new job I met my husband. We were engaged within six months of getting together, married in the Caribbean within ten months. I gave up smoking to try for a baby. Then started a childminding business from home a year later, when we had our first baby, a little girl. Two years later our son arrived.
Unbeknown to me, I had ticked all five things off my five-year plan, within five years.
It wasn’t until years
later when I found that piece of paper, that I had scribbled that list on out
of boredom one day, that I realise
what had manifested in my life as a result, without any real expectation or effort
on my part.
One of the most powerful tools for creating a life we love is the humble written word.
It doesn’t matter how we freeze those words in physical form, either by writing to -do -lists, five- year plans or keeping journals or diaries? Our written thoughts, feelings and intentions, excel their physical creation.
I don’t know why? or how? This is such a powerful way to create our lives.