SECRET STORY

Do you have a secret story to tell?

It has become apparent to me that I’m not the only person in the writing community that has a secret story.

It seems common for us writers to scribble away on a piece of writing we never plan to let see the light of day. For whatever reason, (embarrassment, fear of what others will think of us or the judgement our words may receive) we decide this will be a private rendezvous between ourselves and the page.

A sordid little affair that we indulge in when the urge takes our fancy. Nothing serious, just fun. Or maybe we take it so seriously that, we pour our heart and soul and the wounds we’ve incurred onto the page, in the hope of self-healing somehow?

Writing from the heart.

Either way, we are afraid that someone might read our words and get to know us. The real person deep inside. Whether that’s the lighter fun side of ourselves or the deeper darker self, we want to keep that part of us a secret.

Its unfortunate if we do, as this is likely where our passions, talents and our true beliefs are kept.

Like nuggets of gold that need uncovering and sharing, with a world of interested people who, if of like mind, will appreciate the beauty that’s been buried for so long.

But there’s a block in mining those treasures. It keeps the riches of our souls to ourselves. It’s the one thing we need which is within.

CONFIDENCE!

SELF-CONFIDENCE

Confidence is the only thing that impedes our progress on our writing journey.

No one is born a great writer.

No one has all the answers.

No one is truly original.

No one can write something that will appeal to everyone.

But you can write your truth, your way.

You can learn to be a great writer, with practice. And you most certainly can write something that will appeal and resonate with someone.

I’m sure your secret story is not a one off. There are other people who have shared similar stories. If not, you can help others to avoid experiencing the same story if unfavourable or help them to achieve the same story if its a good one, teach, reach or at the very least entertain.

No matter how new or old you are in your writing life, with nearly 8 billion people on the planet, someone will laugh at your jokes, cry at your sorrow and get motivated by your anecdotes.

READING FOR WHATEVER REASON.

Anyone who reads your words will certainly undergo a change in some way, whether positive or negative, consciously or subconsciously, the mind is moulded and modified by the information it receives.

So, allow yourself to be exposed, get naked in your writing, this is your sea to go skinny dipping in.

You may pen a far-fetched fantasy, that some won’t stretch their minds to envision. Their imagination is not your problem. If you’ve had fun on the adventure, others will surely too. But if its left festering in a drawer somewhere, like a deep, dark, dirty secret, then you are denying yourself a chance to find out where your words can take you. Worse still, you deny your readers the gold they may be seeking in their lives.

Have the confidence to try.

The truth is, you’ll never know if something you write is good or bad, until you let it go out into the world and let it be judged. Then it’s only the person judging’s opinion and not necessarily a fact. Every reader will perceive your writing differently, as every person perceives their reality differently in life.

I can watch a film with my husband where he laughs all the way through, when all I feel like doing is crying. You see, we are hearing the same words and watching the same characters but feeling different feelings.

You have to be brave. Be bold. Be honest. This is what it takes to share a secret. To be open and vulnerable takes trust.

Trust in yourself.

Trust in the writing process.

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” Helen Keller

It takes confidence to overcome resistance. Whether you are guarding a far-out spiritual manuscript on unicorns, a hot and steamy erotica or an encyclopaedia on steam trains, you were inspired to put the pen to paper for a purpose.

Don’t shy away from your story, embrace it and others will too.

Can you summon that power that calls you to create and share?

Keep Scribbling,

Em x

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Write Now or Not Right Now?

We all have dreams and desires in life.

For most of us that’s what they stay, far off dreams or longing desires unfulfilled.

I know right now reading this, you can think of one thing you’ve always wanted to do, be or achieve.

But for whatever reason life has gotten in the way?

You may have a number of reasons why you can’t achieve your dreams and desires right now.

Maybe you are waiting for the children to grow up?

Maybe you need more money or more time?

More knowledge, education or experience?

Maybe someone else to help you?

Maybe inspiration to strike or motivation to move you?

But I can guarantee you that in ten years’ time, you will still have one or more or maybe all, of the above to stop you realising your dreams.

How do I know? Because just like you I have too.

Ten years ago, I set out to write a book.

In that ten years I’ve had two children to bring up, two businesses to run, hundreds of other children to care for, family tragedy and illness, home extensions to contend with and about twenty different educational courses to complete.

Now my young children are teens. I’ve still got my businesses doing well. I’ve gained a massive amount of experience, caring for so many different children and seeing therapy clients. I’ve overcome the loss of loved ones and family illness. My home extension along with all my educational courses are complete.

Yet one thing remains unfinished…….

Yes, my manuscript.

Don’t get me wrong its finished in so far as its written. In fact, I’ve enough material for four books. Its just I’m still editing it. And editing it. And yes, you’ve guessed it, still editing it.

I’m waiting for it to be perfect, then I’ll wait for the perfect time. And then well quite frankly, if I keep waiting that may never come.

Striving for perfection in an imperfect world is impossible.


Perfectionism is the weed that thinks it’s a flower.

Perfectionism is the weed that thinks it’s a flower.

So, lets waste no more time striving for it!

As Charles Darwin was quoted as saying;

‘A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life.’


What do you need more time to do, be or have?

Tick Tock Goes the Clock!

A clock tick for all of us, silently somewhere. And one is ticking now for you.

One day it will be too late to; travel the world, spend more time playing with the kids, to write that book, take that study course or do that job.

Too late to find that relationship that you’ve always dreamed of.

And too late to tell someone you are sorry or that you love them.

Too late to be the real you, the person deep inside that you know you can and want to be.

And too late to live the life you deserve to live.


Now is the time to act. Today, this minute, is the only time you are promised.

Joan Rivers while she was alive, was once quoted as saying

‘Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift, that’s why it’s called the present!’


The past is gone; the future is not guaranteed, but today, everything is possible.

‘No time’ – Is an excuse.

‘Later when the time is right’ – Is procrastination.

Now is the time to act, before our fears of time running out become a reality.


Time Stands Still for No Man or Woman

It’s ironic how time only stands still, when something catastrophic happens in our lives.


Someone we love dies.

We receive a diagnosis from the doctor.

Our partner leaves us for someone else.

We lose our job or home.

Suddenly, it’s like we are frozen still in time.

For once, we stop being busy doing nothing, and become still.

Bewildered by how everyone else is still busy around us, getting on with their lives, oblivious to what is happening in our world.

Abruptly we wake from our dream or nightmare, crashing back to reality with an urgency, to do those things we always wanted to do, but just never had enough time.

We are all just waiting our whole lives for;

The time to be right.

To be ready.

To be old enough.

To have enough experience, knowledge, support, money or time!

But when is the time ever right?

When will it be the right time for you to follow your dreams, and live your life the way you want to?

What are you waiting for?

Mind Your Own Business

Mind your own business and you’ll see results. News, social media and so and so next door, is nothing to do with you. Focus on where you are going and don’t get side tracked by other people’s lives.


If you want to be an artist, paint now!


And never repress your dreams as unachievable right now. If you want to be a dancer dance now, if you want to be a singer, sing now, if you want to be an actor then act now, if you want to be an artist, paint now, and if you want to write, write now. Or whatever else it is, that you are yearning to do, have or become?


If you want to be a singer, sing now!

Another quote I love is by Audrey Hepburn;

Nothing is impossible, the word itself says I’m possible’

You got this!

Just start right now and never doubt yourself. Leave that for others to waste their time doing and know that if others are doubting you, it’s because of their own unfulfilled dreams, that they’ve buried through fear.

Still feeling de motivated or struggling to get started on your dreams and goals?

Don’t worry, we all need a cheering squad sometimes. Unfortunately, the people we tend to turn to for support, such as family and friends, can unintentionally influence us to go off course.

And even after ten years, I still feel uncomfortable when I receive those blank stares and awkward silences, whenever I admit that I’m writing a book.

But don’t give up!

When you find the right person to be accountable to, your commitment and success ratio will increase considerably.

You’ll lose that weight, find that dream job or partner, or get that book published!

You are imperfectly perfect for that role but if you want motivation and inspiration, then follow my blog for a weekly boost or let’s make friends on social media and support one another along the way.

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