While Magpies Danced on the Decking I Dreamed.

I spent years reading, listening, and wondering about magic and miracles?

Six for silver, seven for gold or was that for a secret never to be told?

There was evidence in my daily life when I saw those around me that they didn’t exist, yet as the magpies danced on my decking, I read about writers’, musicians, artists, gurus,  professionals and the like, who told me in no uncertain terms they existed, they were possible and real.

I pondered, maybe I didn’t need a miracle or to experience magic as all was going… well …. normal and good in my life?

Or maybe I’d missed them?

Maybe they were there but I couldn’t identify them?

Until recently, when I won a writing competition to get my book published worldwide. In that moment I felt synchronicity, that serendipitous, deliciousness when I had taken action at precisely the right time, and my path had crossed another who was looking for someone like me. I felt it must be a miracle as my book had sat idle on my laptop for ten years. Now before my very eyes two books had blossomed over -night, and in that moment when I won, I knew there was magic in the air. I felt excited, even more so than any child could ever on Christmas morning. This was a long-awaited moment whose time had come.

But to any other on looker, stranger, friend or family member, it was just an ordinary, mundane moment in time. Not for me, I for the first time felt the magic, experienced a miracle slowly unfold and now, I could at last join those other positivity preachers, who gave me faith and hope along my way, when years went by that were certainly grey. When progress never shifted, not even an inch and I dreamed of the life I felt I should be living.

Do you have a dream in you?

Do you want a miracle or a sprinkling of magic to shimmy up your life?

What desires have you put off over the years that need rekindling?

You know, the ones you feel sad to recall, the ones you feel jealous and envious that others have achieved. The ones that ignite anger or injustice for escaping you. The ones you feel you’re too young, too old, too poor, too uneducated, too unexperienced to begin now?

The dreams buried so deep not even an excavator could dig them up?

That’s your miracle waiting, that’s your magic!

It’s time to start your enchanted journey. Discover for real what’s possible for you and what’s not, there’s value in both, for when the day arrives and you’re forced to look back upon the days when anything was possible, you’ll wonder why you never proved yourself right or wrong?

Why you did nothing.

There’s pain and suffering in the not knowing and the inertia of not even trying. So, by going for your dreams and desires or simple fleeting fancies, what do you have to lose right now?

Don’t cling to regret like its going to justify your existence, it won’t. Grab hold of your destiny where ever that may take you, pick up that paint brush, open that gallery, chuck clay on your wheel, shoot that landscape, open that cake shop, scribble in the coffee shop or sing in the choir of your local church.

Take the risk. Make the steps you walk count and the words you utter matter. Because they do, if not for you for all those you encounter!

Stay Present,

Em x

How to Create the Life of Your Dreams When Life Has Other Plans!

Sometimes those perceived disappointments in life, such as that lost job opportunity, redundancy, divorce or sickness, all fool us into thinking they are unfortunate events.

That God, The Universe or Lady Luck is not really listening or not really there!

But there’s always a force greater than us at work on our behalf.


Then like magic, all our prayers had been answered at once.

Those things are meant to be a way of directing us in a different direction, for good reason. Although that may not be apparent right now, all will become clear in the not so distant future.

FORTUNE CAN MAKE US REDUNDANT

When my Husband was being made redundant, everyone I told sympathized with my plight.

‘Oh, no poor you, what are you going to do?

Not one person could see the positive in the situation. 

This amazed me as it was the best thing that could have ever happened to us.

We had spoken of my Husband joining me in my Childminding business as he was working away a lot and travelling home late in the evenings, missing time with our young children. Often, they’d be in bed by the time he arrived home.

My business was growing and I had a waiting list of children waiting for childcare, needing my services but I was limited by how many children I could care for, governed by professional registration.

We didn’t feel brave enough for both of us to take the risk of being self-employed together. On top of that, we knew it would take at least a year for my husband to train and become registered as a childminder, a year of not working we couldn’t afford him to take.

Then like magic, all our prayers had been answered at once.

He was made redundant so he got redundancy pay. Not much but we then had payment protection on our mortgage which paid our mortgage for a whole year, plus they had a back to work incentive and paid for his training to become a childminder. By the time the payment protection had ended, he was registered and able to start working straight away, and we have never looked back.

A PRICELESS OPPORTUNITY

We spend every day together, while he has played with, cared for, and watched our children grow up. Being a hands-on Dad has enabled him to take our children to and from school every day and watch their school concerts.

As well as all of those lovely perks, we have expanded our business to twice its size, earning us more income than we’ve ever had, all from the comfort of our family home. No more commuting cross country, with the added blessing that our house is always filled with children, who fill our home and life with love and laughter, which is priceless.

Had we perceived the redundancy as negative, it could well have taken us on a different path.

Life knew better than us, she had a better, bigger more loving plan for not only us, but the hundreds of children including our own, that we’ve had the pleasure of taking care of over the years.

Sometimes all we can see is our current circumstances, and if they don’t look too good at the time, life can get us down. My life story, like most peoples, didn’t start off too good but turned out even better than I could ever have imagined. It too has a positive redundancy story line.

It started with a list.


It started with a list.

I remember while in work, bored one day in a photographic retail job, for no reason, grabbing a piece of paper from the printer and making a five-year plan.

Well it was a list really of five things I wanted to achieve, within the next five years. It went something like this.

  1. Give up smoking.
  2. Get married in the Caribbean.
  3. Buy a house.
  4. Have two children a boy and a girl specifically.
  5. Have my own business working from home.

Again, as if by magic it would seem Lady Life was humorously looking down upon my list and as a sarcastic joke, offered me the opposite to what I wanted…or did she?

My plans to buy the house I was renting were dashed within days of writing that list, with news that, I was being faced with redundancy as where I worked was closing down.

My then boyfriend also decided to leave me, which seen my smoking habit increase, and demolished my plans of getting married in the Caribbean and having two children.

But actually, Lady Life heard me.

She knew what I wanted and she cleared the way for me to recognize its possibility in my life.

Some may have temporarily given up on their dreams at this point.

I was at an all-time low and my Nan who had brought me up as my Mum, had died too at the same time.

That’s when I was head hunted. I was sat in work seeing out my final weeks before redundancy, wondering what on earth I was going to do, when a manager from a business next door came in and asked me to go for an interview, as they were looking for someone to do what I was doing, selling digital cameras in their company!!!


I was reluctant to go for the interview at first

I was reluctant to go for the interview at first, as it was doing the same boring job I was already doing, which I hated. Fortunately, my current manager urged me to go for the interview in order to keep my options open, as time was running out and I hadn’t even looked for another job yet. So, I went for the interview.

As I wasn’t keen on getting the job I was quite laid back, calm and relaxed in the interview. So much so, I had blagged a huge pay rise compared to what I was earning in my current job.

I had negotiated saying I earnt more when I didn’t, and that I wanted to earn more than that again. They didn’t hesitate in giving me what I asked for. I was one of the highest paid sales person’s on a salary, in the whole company. Having this new job and increase in income,  I applied for a mortgage as quick as I could, (banks were not willing to lend you money unless you had been in your job at least six months) so I had to act fast before I left my old job and started my new one, which was weeks away.


The mortgage went through within weeks, and was final just as I started my new job!

The mortgage went through within weeks, and was final just as I started my new job. That was one thing achieved from my five-year plan already.

Then in my new job I met my husband. We were engaged within six months of getting together, married in the Caribbean within ten months. I gave up smoking to try for a baby. Then started a childminding business from home a year later, when we had our first baby, a little girl. Two years later our son arrived.

Unbeknown to me, I had ticked all five things off my five-year plan, within five years.

It wasn’t until years later when I found that piece of paper, that I had scribbled that list on out of boredom one day, that I realise what had manifested in my life as a result, without any real expectation or effort on my part.

LOVE LISTS

One of the most powerful tools for creating a life we love is the humble written word.


 Our written thoughts, feelings and intentions, excel their physical creation.

It doesn’t matter how we freeze those words in physical form, either by writing to -do -lists, five- year plans or keeping journals or diaries?   Our written thoughts, feelings and intentions, excel their physical creation.

I don’t know why? or how? This is such a powerful way to create our lives.

But I know without a doubt, it is.

Think BIG Start SMALL

Think BIG Start small

Motivation is what gets us going on our dreams and desires.

In the beginning we are full of big ideas and goals. We feel enthusiastic and inspired. We even jump out of bed excited to get going on those goals.

Then after a couple of days, weeks, months or maybe even years, our motivation starts dwindling.

We start wondering why our dreams have not yet materialised into reality?

Negativity and self- doubt creeps in to comfort us, telling us;

‘You don’t need to put yourself through this.’

‘Your life is good enough as it is, let those fairy-tale fantasies go!’ or ‘Who do you think you are you’re no real, artist, actress, entrepreneur, writer, musician, mum, dad, manager, teacher, politician or whatever else you set out and aspired to become?

We question why we even started to begin with and who or why are we doing it all for anyway?

The Key to Motivation is Motive

The truth is motivation doesn’t last. Its just like brushing your teeth, it’s a habit you have to acquire over time. You wouldn’t stop brushing your teeth because you couldn’t be bothered though, would you?

You know over time that would affect your good looks and how others saw you.

And it’s the same when we can’t be bothered to work on our goals and dreams. Overtime we don’t feel good, unfulfilled dreams can leave a bad taste in our mouths and like rotten teeth eat away at us. Others start to notice our slovenly self-care and can see every time that we open our mouth that we’ve lost our mojo.

But it’s never too late!

We can get that energy, passion, zest for life and motivation back. As long as we are alive, we can get our mojo back no matter what.

The Dream Weaver

So, dust off your dream’s tomorrows a new day.

Today start dreaming BIG!

No BIGGER still.

What is it you really, really want in your life?

While we are at the dreaming stage anything is possible. New home, new career, new relationship, new business venture or travel adventure, new body, new lifestyle, new YOU?

It’s all there ready and waiting for you to get started on your dreams.

You know its possible because you see others achieving exactly what you want to achieve. And deep down you know they are no different or no better than you.

In fact, the only difference between those who are living their dreams and You, is that they are taking action and are motivated to do something, while you are still at the dreaming stage.

Hopefully you’ll soon get bored, angry and frustrated just dreaming. Then tomorrow the fun begins!

Start Small

If the thought of your goals and dreams just overwhelms you with its grandness, don’t worry.

RELAX.

You won’t get far feeling overwhelmed, fearful or anxious.

If you’ve heard you have to work hard to get anywhere, forget that too!

It’s working happier, not harder.

You will achieve far more and feel more enjoyment and satisfaction, by being relaxed and happy when, enjoying the journey towards your goal, than you ever will from working hard, stressing out and getting impatient.

Its about enjoying the process. You’ve probably heard that a million times? That’s because it so true.

I’m addicted to doing courses. I’m driven like an obsessed learning junkie, who needs her fix of info and education. Every course I pay to enrol on is completely different because I like a challenge (and I get bored easily!!!) And every course I try to race through, so I can start the next…although I always promise my husband ‘No really this course will be my last.’

I just want the buzz of completion, but what always happens?

At the end, I just feel a bit deflated. A little sad even. Its like getting to the end of a good book or film that you wanted to go on forever.

I’ve come to realise that, I actually enjoy learning and doing the courses themselves, not for the recognition, certification, qualifications or whatever else comes at the end.

And so it is with any goal or dream. It’s the fun, enjoyment and anticipation of a goal or dream, that’s far more exciting, than the goal or dream itself.

Hang onto that sentence whenever you are feeling a bit demotivated, it’ll help you get going again.

If it doesn’t, then the goal or dream probably isn’t really YOUR goal or dream? Or isn’t something that you sincerely dream about, that still excites you?

When I was working as a waitress in a cocktail bar (well steakhouse really) I was a lost, innocent naive teen. I had no goals or dream or direction. I was carried along day to day, like driftwood. I was studying at college but just didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life?

Suddenly the allure of the late nights working in the busy city centre, a promotion, and what seemed like a lot of money to me back then, tempted me to work in that restaurant full time.

Then I was stuck!

Don’t get me wrong, it was one of the best, most entertaining, interesting, enjoyable jobs I have ever done. But it just wasn’t going to get me anywhere. I went as far as I could there and then I started feeling like a prisoner, who could not escape, and wouldn’t know where to go or what to do if I did?

Then one day a chef there gave me a book that was to change my life forever.

The Magic of Thinking BIG by David J. Schwartz

Learn the Secrets of Success

It really was a magically experience for me and it significantly shifted my perception of both life and myself.

And I’ve been thinking BIG ever since.

This has helped motivate me on my darkest days. I’ve read the book a few times but not in the last twenty years or so, but the lessons I learnt in those pages are timeless gifts, that have helped me achieve most of what I have set out to, so far.

We should never stop dreaming.

But dreams are rarely achieved over night (unless like me you meet the man of your dreams or unlike me, win the lottery!)

Dreams take love, commitment, motivation and dedication.

You have to be dedicated. And this means taking those small steps towards your dreams and goals, each and every day.

If taken step by step, little by little, putting all those steps together, any goal or dream becomes manageable and eventually complete. I started off with the dream of writing a parenting self- help book, (I knew how important these books can be and how they can actually change lives, as I’ve had several helping me out along the way)

I started small with one word at a time, which led to a page, a page led to a chapter and well ten years later, I now have four books ready to publish. I didn’t plan on a quartet, I was just enjoying the process so much (and at times hating it…. editing!!!) that I didn’t want it to end, so I never stopped writing.

If you are faced with a problem or are feeling overwhelmed, break it down in to stages. Dealing with it bit by bit, will make it less daunting, easier and quicker to solve.

Using this method, we can learn to do anything, no matter how difficult it initially seems. All we have to do is recognise the small achievements along the way but most importantly, be supportive, encouraging, and loving of ourselves, for all of our efforts, not just for our achievements. As long as progress is being made so will mistakes. But we can’t let them deter us or be our excuse to quit. These are our greatest teachers, but we’ll leave failure as our option for next time.

Until then, Stay Present,

Em x

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