Who’s Loving You this Valentines Day?

Love is in the air again.

It’s that time that loved up hopeless romantic’s love, and lonely singletons loathe – Valentine’s Day! 

But whether you’re single, in the honeymoon period of a new relationship, or have been married for years, there’s one person that deserves your love more than anyone else – YOU! 

‘You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.’ Buddha

Loving yourself doesn’t mean blowing kisses to yourself in the mirror in a narcissistic way (although that could be a good place to start?) 

Healthy self- love is about speaking to yourself like you would a loved one, in a supportive, caring way, and taking good care of your health and well- being. 

IF YOU HAVEN’T GOT ANYTHING NICE TO SAY, SAY IT ANYWAY! 

As we grow up, we start listening to other people’s opinions about us, and any criticism received we tend to remember. Then when things go wrong or we make mistakes, we tell ourselves that others peoples negative views were right. We then add to them by mentally berating ourselves, turning other people’s false opinions of us into self -fulfilling prophecies i.e., a reality. 

You can be more loving towards yourself by remembering that any criticism from another person is just their opinion, and as long as you don’t believe it and join in with the hate campaign, then it’s not true.

In life there is The Truth and there’s a truth. And truth is subjective to each and everyone one of us. Is Marmite disgusting? I know what I think but that’s my truth.

Affirmations are a great way to practice loving yourself more, they are simply positive statements said in the present tense. 

So, whenever you make a mistake, instead of calling yourself ‘Stupid’ reassure yourself that you are always doing your best and say; ‘I am doing the best that I can at this time, and my best is always good enough’ and repeat this affirmation often.

PHYSICAL ATTRACTION 

Loving the skin we’re in can be difficult at times as we tend to focus on the bits we don’t like and ignore the good bits. Yet, this is the body you have and that takes care of you, it seems only fair to show it the same kind of care and love back. If there’s something you dislike like your weight remember, your body didn’t do this to you, you do to your body.

Take a look at your body each morning in the mirror and focus on the bits you love; you might have nice legs or a nice smile? 

The more you can practice loving and accepting yourself exactly as you are today, the more likely you will be to take care of your physically body, and that means if there’s bits you dislike now, then in the future with time and loving care, they will change for the better. Focusing on our negative aspects only makes us feel worse about ourselves, and when we don’t feel good, we are more inclined to poison ourselves with alcohol, cigarettes, drugs and junk food. 

• LOVE FOOD & FOOD WILL LOVE YOU 

If we can form a healthy, loving relationship with food, such as choosing to eat nutritious, natural foods, like fresh fruit and vegetables, lean meat and fish, and drinking plenty of water, then food will love us back and give us the energy and nutrients to keep us healthy mentally and physically.

• WORK YOUR BODY 

Loving ourselves means taking care of our bodies. We need to keep as active as we can on a daily basis to burn calories, increase our energy levels, and to release feel good chemicals in our brain.  

Our bodies are designed to move about, so move whenever you can. You don’t need to go to the gym to keep fit, just move. Doing house work, walking the dog, dancing, playing with the children, all burn calories, so get up and get going now, your body will love you for it! 

• EDUCATE YOURSELF

Learning is a life long process. Expanding our knowledge keeps our mental health in order and helps us to navigate life with more clarity and understanding. Broaden your horizons and take up a new hobby or study programme to keep those brain cells firing and re wiring. Neuroplasticity was once believed to only occur in childhood but now research has shown how we are never too old to learn new things and change our brains for the better.  

MAKE A DATE WITH YOURSELF 

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No Valentine to take you to the cinema?  

Then go it alone, or make time for yourself to do those things you love. A soak in a bubble bath with a magazine, a cuppa and a good book, painting, fishing, football, knitting, whatever you choose to do, schedule time in your diary to prioritise YOU Time! 

• TREAT YOURSELF 

You may not have a partner to spoil you this Valentine’s Day, but you are still worth treating, so spoil yourself.  

A treat once in a while can make us feel good, so go and buy yourself some chocolate, perfume, aftershave, flowers, beer or bubbly and a take- away, and curl up on the sofa with yourself. This way at least someone loves you, and you’ll never leave you if you love yourself right, and once you truly love yourself, others will love you too! 

Don’t forget, there are a lot of friends, family and lovers you’ve yet to meet, who are looking for you.

HAPPY VALENTINES’ DAY EVERYONE! 

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Love Em x

SWIMMING AGAINST THE CURRENT

Sometimes in life we all find ourselves swimming against the current, and that’s okay, as long as we keep swimming!

As long as you do not allow your negative thoughts and feelings, to drown you to the point that you feel like giving up, then you will somehow, from somewhere, find that inner strength that you need to bring you back to shore safely.

Since you once were the strongest swimmer of sperm, please know you have a purpose. You’re luckily unique and yes, the world needs YOU, more than you’ll ever know. You are always loved by a force you’ll never be able to see, hear or always feel. But that love once made you, no matter how you were conceived? And that love is going to find you again, when you have faith, hold on, and believe.


You once were the strongest swimmer of sperm!

So, when that tidal wave surges towards you full force, keep swimming, no matter what, or float with the current until it weakens. Going with the flow is sometimes the only option.

You can’t stop it, and you can’t control it.

Just keep going through it, or surf the crest of that wave until you get over it.

STAY POSITIVE

Often the hardest thing about my job is, encouraging clients who are feeling down, to stay positive. Especially when they are over coming traumatic events or suffering physically in some way.

But even harder still, is trying to encourage clients who are feeling down to stay positive, when I am feeling down or going through a crisis myself.

We all get them days or periods in our life, they are unavoidable at times.

Yet, they are the times more than anything else, that require a positive perspective.

Everyone has stress, worries or challenges in their lives, no one is immune, but its attitude that helps us to overcome them.


Be mindful of all the good already in your life, right now in this moment.

A negative, defeatist attitude, is never going to help to make things better. In fact, it makes things worse.  On the other hand, a positive, ‘I can deal with this and get through it’ attitude’ Will make things seem better, and will in most cases make the outcome better too. This doesn’t mean there will always be a happy ending but it’s never actually what happens to us that’s the problem, it’s how we react or respond to it.

STUFF HAPPENS

Stuff happens in life to all of us, good and bad. We just need to start noticing the good more, and not let the bad get the better of us!


Trying to feel positive, motivated and thankful at those ‘normal’ times in our life helps.

I know first- hand that that is easier said than done, but what are the options?

Feeling sad and miserable, powerless and negatively defeated, doesn’t bare thinking about, but understandable and naturally normal at challenging times in our lives.

We can help to decrease those times and increase the good times though. By simply trying to feel positive, motivated and thankful at those ‘normal’ times in our life, when nothing is going wrong, but when we tend to find ourselves worrying about things going wrong, before they have.

This can help us to deal with things, if and when they do actually happen, without that feeling of heavy overwhelm. Stress is not the problem, constant, compounded stress is!

MUNDANE MOMENTS


Things can always get better in the sea of life!

So today I challenge you, in your ordinary day, full of the usual financial / family/ work/ relationship woes, to be mindful of all the good already in your life, right now in this moment.

Appreciate if you can, the perfection in the normal, boring and the mundane?

Be grateful if nothing else for your health. And if your health isn’t all that healthy at the moment, know that feeling bad won’t make you feel better. However, appreciating the fact that we are breathing, is enough when we think of those we have loved, who aren’t any longer.

And as long as we are breathing, and coming up in between for air, that’s a sign that we’re alive, and things can always get better in the sea of life!

Stay Present, Your Life is a Gift,

Em x

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