Think BIG Start SMALL

Think BIG Start small

Motivation is what gets us going on our dreams and desires.

In the beginning we are full of big ideas and goals. We feel enthusiastic and inspired. We even jump out of bed excited to get going on those goals.

Then after a couple of days, weeks, months or maybe even years, our motivation starts dwindling.

We start wondering why our dreams have not yet materialised into reality?

Negativity and self- doubt creeps in to comfort us, telling us;

‘You don’t need to put yourself through this.’

‘Your life is good enough as it is, let those fairy-tale fantasies go!’ or ‘Who do you think you are you’re no real, artist, actress, entrepreneur, writer, musician, mum, dad, manager, teacher, politician or whatever else you set out and aspired to become?

We question why we even started to begin with and who or why are we doing it all for anyway?

The Key to Motivation is Motive

The truth is motivation doesn’t last. Its just like brushing your teeth, it’s a habit you have to acquire over time. You wouldn’t stop brushing your teeth because you couldn’t be bothered though, would you?

You know over time that would affect your good looks and how others saw you.

And it’s the same when we can’t be bothered to work on our goals and dreams. Overtime we don’t feel good, unfulfilled dreams can leave a bad taste in our mouths and like rotten teeth eat away at us. Others start to notice our slovenly self-care and can see every time that we open our mouth that we’ve lost our mojo.

But it’s never too late!

We can get that energy, passion, zest for life and motivation back. As long as we are alive, we can get our mojo back no matter what.

The Dream Weaver

So, dust off your dream’s tomorrows a new day.

Today start dreaming BIG!

No BIGGER still.

What is it you really, really want in your life?

While we are at the dreaming stage anything is possible. New home, new career, new relationship, new business venture or travel adventure, new body, new lifestyle, new YOU?

It’s all there ready and waiting for you to get started on your dreams.

You know its possible because you see others achieving exactly what you want to achieve. And deep down you know they are no different or no better than you.

In fact, the only difference between those who are living their dreams and You, is that they are taking action and are motivated to do something, while you are still at the dreaming stage.

Hopefully you’ll soon get bored, angry and frustrated just dreaming. Then tomorrow the fun begins!

Start Small

If the thought of your goals and dreams just overwhelms you with its grandness, don’t worry.

RELAX.

You won’t get far feeling overwhelmed, fearful or anxious.

If you’ve heard you have to work hard to get anywhere, forget that too!

It’s working happier, not harder.

You will achieve far more and feel more enjoyment and satisfaction, by being relaxed and happy when, enjoying the journey towards your goal, than you ever will from working hard, stressing out and getting impatient.

Its about enjoying the process. You’ve probably heard that a million times? That’s because it so true.

I’m addicted to doing courses. I’m driven like an obsessed learning junkie, who needs her fix of info and education. Every course I pay to enrol on is completely different because I like a challenge (and I get bored easily!!!) And every course I try to race through, so I can start the next…although I always promise my husband ‘No really this course will be my last.’

I just want the buzz of completion, but what always happens?

At the end, I just feel a bit deflated. A little sad even. Its like getting to the end of a good book or film that you wanted to go on forever.

I’ve come to realise that, I actually enjoy learning and doing the courses themselves, not for the recognition, certification, qualifications or whatever else comes at the end.

And so it is with any goal or dream. It’s the fun, enjoyment and anticipation of a goal or dream, that’s far more exciting, than the goal or dream itself.

Hang onto that sentence whenever you are feeling a bit demotivated, it’ll help you get going again.

If it doesn’t, then the goal or dream probably isn’t really YOUR goal or dream? Or isn’t something that you sincerely dream about, that still excites you?

When I was working as a waitress in a cocktail bar (well steakhouse really) I was a lost, innocent naive teen. I had no goals or dream or direction. I was carried along day to day, like driftwood. I was studying at college but just didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life?

Suddenly the allure of the late nights working in the busy city centre, a promotion, and what seemed like a lot of money to me back then, tempted me to work in that restaurant full time.

Then I was stuck!

Don’t get me wrong, it was one of the best, most entertaining, interesting, enjoyable jobs I have ever done. But it just wasn’t going to get me anywhere. I went as far as I could there and then I started feeling like a prisoner, who could not escape, and wouldn’t know where to go or what to do if I did?

Then one day a chef there gave me a book that was to change my life forever.

The Magic of Thinking BIG by David J. Schwartz

Learn the Secrets of Success

It really was a magically experience for me and it significantly shifted my perception of both life and myself.

And I’ve been thinking BIG ever since.

This has helped motivate me on my darkest days. I’ve read the book a few times but not in the last twenty years or so, but the lessons I learnt in those pages are timeless gifts, that have helped me achieve most of what I have set out to, so far.

We should never stop dreaming.

But dreams are rarely achieved over night (unless like me you meet the man of your dreams or unlike me, win the lottery!)

Dreams take love, commitment, motivation and dedication.

You have to be dedicated. And this means taking those small steps towards your dreams and goals, each and every day.

If taken step by step, little by little, putting all those steps together, any goal or dream becomes manageable and eventually complete. I started off with the dream of writing a parenting self- help book, (I knew how important these books can be and how they can actually change lives, as I’ve had several helping me out along the way)

I started small with one word at a time, which led to a page, a page led to a chapter and well ten years later, I now have four books ready to publish. I didn’t plan on a quartet, I was just enjoying the process so much (and at times hating it…. editing!!!) that I didn’t want it to end, so I never stopped writing.

If you are faced with a problem or are feeling overwhelmed, break it down in to stages. Dealing with it bit by bit, will make it less daunting, easier and quicker to solve.

Using this method, we can learn to do anything, no matter how difficult it initially seems. All we have to do is recognise the small achievements along the way but most importantly, be supportive, encouraging, and loving of ourselves, for all of our efforts, not just for our achievements. As long as progress is being made so will mistakes. But we can’t let them deter us or be our excuse to quit. These are our greatest teachers, but we’ll leave failure as our option for next time.

Until then, Stay Present,

Em x

Write Now or Not Right Now?

We all have dreams and desires in life.

For most of us that’s what they stay, far off dreams or longing desires unfulfilled.

I know right now reading this, you can think of one thing you’ve always wanted to do, be or achieve.

But for whatever reason life has gotten in the way?

You may have a number of reasons why you can’t achieve your dreams and desires right now.

Maybe you are waiting for the children to grow up?

Maybe you need more money or more time?

More knowledge, education or experience?

Maybe someone else to help you?

Maybe inspiration to strike or motivation to move you?

But I can guarantee you that in ten years’ time, you will still have one or more or maybe all, of the above to stop you realising your dreams.

How do I know? Because just like you I have too.

Ten years ago, I set out to write a book.

In that ten years I’ve had two children to bring up, two businesses to run, hundreds of other children to care for, family tragedy and illness, home extensions to contend with and about twenty different educational courses to complete.

Now my young children are teens. I’ve still got my businesses doing well. I’ve gained a massive amount of experience, caring for so many different children and seeing therapy clients. I’ve overcome the loss of loved ones and family illness. My home extension along with all my educational courses are complete.

Yet one thing remains unfinished…….

Yes, my manuscript.

Don’t get me wrong its finished in so far as its written. In fact, I’ve enough material for four books. Its just I’m still editing it. And editing it. And yes, you’ve guessed it, still editing it.

I’m waiting for it to be perfect, then I’ll wait for the perfect time. And then well quite frankly, if I keep waiting that may never come.

Striving for perfection in an imperfect world is impossible.


Perfectionism is the weed that thinks it’s a flower.

Perfectionism is the weed that thinks it’s a flower.

So, lets waste no more time striving for it!

As Charles Darwin was quoted as saying;

‘A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life.’


What do you need more time to do, be or have?

Tick Tock Goes the Clock!

A clock tick for all of us, silently somewhere. And one is ticking now for you.

One day it will be too late to; travel the world, spend more time playing with the kids, to write that book, take that study course or do that job.

Too late to find that relationship that you’ve always dreamed of.

And too late to tell someone you are sorry or that you love them.

Too late to be the real you, the person deep inside that you know you can and want to be.

And too late to live the life you deserve to live.


Now is the time to act. Today, this minute, is the only time you are promised.

Joan Rivers while she was alive, was once quoted as saying

‘Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift, that’s why it’s called the present!’


The past is gone; the future is not guaranteed, but today, everything is possible.

‘No time’ – Is an excuse.

‘Later when the time is right’ – Is procrastination.

Now is the time to act, before our fears of time running out become a reality.


Time Stands Still for No Man or Woman

It’s ironic how time only stands still, when something catastrophic happens in our lives.


Someone we love dies.

We receive a diagnosis from the doctor.

Our partner leaves us for someone else.

We lose our job or home.

Suddenly, it’s like we are frozen still in time.

For once, we stop being busy doing nothing, and become still.

Bewildered by how everyone else is still busy around us, getting on with their lives, oblivious to what is happening in our world.

Abruptly we wake from our dream or nightmare, crashing back to reality with an urgency, to do those things we always wanted to do, but just never had enough time.

We are all just waiting our whole lives for;

The time to be right.

To be ready.

To be old enough.

To have enough experience, knowledge, support, money or time!

But when is the time ever right?

When will it be the right time for you to follow your dreams, and live your life the way you want to?

What are you waiting for?

Mind Your Own Business

Mind your own business and you’ll see results. News, social media and so and so next door, is nothing to do with you. Focus on where you are going and don’t get side tracked by other people’s lives.


If you want to be an artist, paint now!


And never repress your dreams as unachievable right now. If you want to be a dancer dance now, if you want to be a singer, sing now, if you want to be an actor then act now, if you want to be an artist, paint now, and if you want to write, write now. Or whatever else it is, that you are yearning to do, have or become?


If you want to be a singer, sing now!

Another quote I love is by Audrey Hepburn;

Nothing is impossible, the word itself says I’m possible’

You got this!

Just start right now and never doubt yourself. Leave that for others to waste their time doing and know that if others are doubting you, it’s because of their own unfulfilled dreams, that they’ve buried through fear.

Still feeling de motivated or struggling to get started on your dreams and goals?

Don’t worry, we all need a cheering squad sometimes. Unfortunately, the people we tend to turn to for support, such as family and friends, can unintentionally influence us to go off course.

And even after ten years, I still feel uncomfortable when I receive those blank stares and awkward silences, whenever I admit that I’m writing a book.

But don’t give up!

When you find the right person to be accountable to, your commitment and success ratio will increase considerably.

You’ll lose that weight, find that dream job or partner, or get that book published!

You are imperfectly perfect for that role but if you want motivation and inspiration, then follow my blog for a weekly boost or let’s make friends on social media and support one another along the way.

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