It’s time to get that zest for life back into our everyday lives.

Yes, we’ve had Brexit here in the UK and the world has had a Covid Pandemic, but as 2022 looms closer, let’s move forward with a more positive, optimistic look towards our futures.

Starting with what’s right with us, the world, and what we’ve achieved so far, despite all the disruption on a global level.

It’s time to celebrate our successes and pat ourselves on the back.

When was the last time you appreciated yourself and your accomplishments?

Now more than ever we need to congratulate ourselves for getting through the toughest of times.

Anyone can find fault.

Anyone can blame themselves.

Anyone can make excuses.

But it takes a special sort of person to find what’s good, what’s gone right, and what can be accomplished in difficult testing times.

The hardest thing for most of us is finding the love within, for ourselves. I know there’ll be squirmers out there feeling repulsed by…’finding the love within themselves.’ But it’s got to be time now to build that person up, rather than trying to put them down.

No one’s probably harder on you, than you.

Stop being the bully. For today choose to be more like Pollyanna, she saw the good in everything.

This negativity bias can be overcome. But we need to consciously recall all that’s good in our lives and celebrate those successes. We have to learn how to reprogramme our unconscious mind that keeps running the negativity shit show, without us even realising.

We can do this through hypnotherapy and meditation. I’m working on creating these downloads for you now, and should be available early in 2022, but you can start consciously shifting your negativity bias this very moment.

You aren’t going to suddenly wake up and bounce out of bed with a Pollyanna attitude overnight. Those negative thoughts have been planted over time and re run over and over in your head for so long, you don’t always know they’re there.

But one positive thought or deed at a time, soon snowballs into a huge ball of feeling better.

Becoming conscious is the place to start.

Notice those thoughts, feelings and corresponding emotions.

Catch them and nip them in the bud.

Replace them with a more positive thought, which will lead to a more positive feeling and emotion. Sounds easier said than done, I know. But I also know it can be done.

I’m a very happy, optimistic person right now. But I spent 25 years of my life being the exact opposite. I was negative, self-defeating and anxious and I felt I carried the world on my shoulders wherever I went.

It was a horrible time in my life.

A dark time.

A lonely time.

I saw the light at the end of the tunnel but it took years to be free. Now I’ll never look back.

Happiness can be a choice for most of us.

But it takes practice.

It’s not an automatic in the moment thing.

It’s a gradual building of many good things, thoughts, memories, successes and mind programming, to reach.

But just as you lose your definition and fitness when you stop exercising your body, if you stop feeding your mind positivity with affirmations, good intentions, positive self -talk, meditation, hypnosis, inspiring podcasts, positive people in your life and uplifting books, then the bias slips back to negativity mode.

There’s been lot of debate recently among my writer /reader community friends on social media, on what’s better, a physical book, eBook or an audio book?

Personally, I’m a fan of all 3.

I love the instant access I get to audio and eBooks and that I can store hundreds of books on one device. But I just love the feel and smell of a physical paper book and the realness of it. And if I’m honest, the anticipation and excitement of waiting for it to arrive in the post.

I haven’t had a physical book sent to me in a long time, so I was super excited to get my copy of Anthony Jacksons book in the post this morning. Packed full of inspirational poetry for me to dip in and out of each day.

But here’s the science bit (you know I love to meld the creative stuff with science! 😊)

A study was done into the same participants reading from an e reader before bed and compared them to then reading a print book. They found when reading the eBook before bedtime, it took them longer to fall asleep, they had a later circadian rhythm and were not as alert the next morning. This is probably due to the blue light that’s in e readers, computers and smartphones, that suppresses melatonin levels.

Anyways, I’m happy to have both my books available in all three formats, so you can choose what suits you best.

Try the bedtime reading experiment yourself and join the physical book v’s eBook debate in the comments section below.

In the meantime, let’s start building our positivity muscle.

Make a list of 7 things now that you like doing.

Then, every day this week do one of those things.

Choose a different thing for each day if you can and write down what you did, when, with whom, and how you felt and what you thought about.

When making your list, consider what things you could do to experience fulfilment and connection within yourself?

When we rely on other people to make us feel good, this can end in co-dependency and disappointment.

Try bringing pleasure into your everyday work if you can too. Who said work should be hard or boring?

Most of us spend most of our time working, so this a key area to inject some positivity and fun in.


Talking of working and celebrating our successes, this month I’ll be celebrating my Best Seller Book Anniversary!

Most writers dream of that day they hit Amazons’ Number 1 Best Seller ranking. Last November I was lucky enough to hit it with both of my books in the same month.

In November 2020 The Powerful Proactive Parent’s Guide to Present Parenting  received a total of 112 downloads, and achieved International Best Seller Status across 9 categories in the USA, UK, Canada and Australia (by Notebook Publishing’s standards [achieving at least Top 10]), including 5 #1 ranks across the USA, UK, Canada and Australia, and International Best Seller status across an additional 7 categories in the aforementioned countries, with the inclusion of India (by Amazon’s Top 100 standard).

And The Confident Parent’s Guide to Raising a Happy, Healthy & Successful Child, had 2,061 downloads. International Best Seller Status across 13 categories in the USA, UK, Canada, Australia, France and Germany (by Notebook Publishing’s standards [achieving at least Top 10]), including 8 #1 ranks across the USA, UK, Canada, Australia, France and Germany, and International Best Seller status across an additional 6 categories in the UK, Australia, France and Germany (by Amazon’s Top 100 standard).

To say I was over the moon was an understatement.

But I didn’t write those books for me, and what actually makes me happier is knowing both books have been consistently reviewed as, being a ‘must-read’ for parents, described by one reviewer as ‘just what I needed’, Ultimately advocating for, as mentioned by one reviewer, a way of being that is ‘more mindful and… in the moment’

It has also been documented as being a ‘lifesaver’ for parents during the quarantine period, as well as the perfect start to a new parenting beginning.

If you haven’t read them yet, you can get the audio books here

Or if you prefer the paperback or kindle you can go here.

I’d love to hear how you’re getting on using THE UURSELF ROUTINE and I’m happy to answer any questions you may have.

I’m still working on my recording studio (my new microphone just arrived, can’t wait to give it a go …eek so excited!!!!)

And producing those hypnotherapy and guided meditation downloads, to relieve stress, avoid burnout and increase creativity.

So, physical book or eBook?

What do you prefer? Let us know in the comments section below.

Until next month, stay present and keep creating,

Em x

How to Achieve the Ultimate Goal?

Come New Year 2020, you’ll be glad you persevered.

We all need goals to succeed in life but it’s not just about the end result.

On the journey towards our goal, our own happiness along the way, is more important than the end destination of achieving the goal itself.

It’s all about the day to day process of creating or learning that is significant. We all want to succeed in achieving our goals to feel good, therefore feeling good is the ultimate goal.

With that in mind, here are some pointers that can help us to feel good while working towards our goals.


We need goals that personally mean something to us. If we have a goal to quit smoking because our partner wants us to, we are less likely to stick at it and succeed.


It’s good to keep the end result in mind but sometimes this can be overwhelming, especially to begin with. Break goals down into small, easy, manageable steps and work towards goals gradually.


Goals give us direction and intention in the moment, but we can only find enthusiasm and motivation, if the steps that lead to our goals are enjoyable and worthwhile.


Goals need to be achievable. If our ambitions are getting us down or are too difficult and challenging, they’ll only serve to make us feel defeated, instead of successful.

Goals need to be achievable.


Wanting to lose weight for example, is not specific enough. We have to decide how much weight we want to lose exactly. What’s the ideal weight we are aiming for or clothes size we want to be?


When exactly do you want to achieve your goal?

By July the fourth 2019 is a definite date and better than saying, ‘Before I go on holiday’

We have to decide how much weight we want to lose exactly.

You are more likely to achieve your goal with a time scale set.


By being specific about what you want and when, you can measure how you are doing.

If your goal is to lose 2 stone by July 2019 and you’ve already lost a stone by November 2018, you know you are half way there and that it’s a realistic goal that’s achievable.


Decide that today is going to be the day you start.

Set a goal and stick to it!

Then give it all you’ve got, unless of course it’s not working.


Sometimes things change, so don’t be afraid to change your goals if needs be.

There’s little point carrying on in pursuit of a goal, if it’s no longer suitable, working or fulfilling us in some way.


It’s hard to recover and bounce back from failure or challenges, if our only focus is on successfully achieving a goal.

Switching our focus to the process of learning, and prioritising our happiness and well -being along the way, will build resilience.

It’s hard to recover and bounce back from failure or challenges, if our only focus is on successfully achieving a goal.

Resilience comes from understanding that it’s not failure or what goes wrong that’s the problem, it’s our own expectations and how we deal with it, and how good we are at being able to pick ourselves back up again and carry on.


We need to build inner strength and faith.

We may not always see how something is going to turn out or know exactly what we have to do?

But we can still stay faithful to our goals and dreams.


Every cloud has a silver lining, if we can identify any good that comes from seemingly negative experiences, then we will be more inclined to learn and bounce back from them, and try again.

Every cloud has a silver lining!

By keeping focused on the positive and looking for the good in everything, we will eventually find it, and less likely to feel helplessly beaten by negativity.

Sometimes it’s just a case of changing our perspective, other times our behaviour.


Our actions and the way we feel, is important to reaching our goals.

No one else can actually make us feel happy, upset or angry.

How we feel is our own responsibility.

It’s up to us to choose our response, we have the ability to respond to others and circumstances any way we choose. When we can take responsibility and still stay positive and upbeat when others aren’t, or when things are not going right, we will be the master of our own emotions and be able achieve our goals no matter what.


We are not a failure if we don’t succeed or reach our goals, we are a success because we tried.

As Edison said about discovering a certain filament, in inventing an electric light bulb;

‘I didn’t fail a thousand times; I found a thousand ways that it wouldn’t work!’

Despite the many failures, he eventually found that filament, had he given up trying, we may all still be sat in the dark today?

His best teacher was failure. Keep that in mind before you even consider giving up!


Edison was also quoted as saying;

‘Many of life’s failures are, people who didn’t realise how close they were to success when they gave up.’

When the going gets tough remember this motto:

‘Winners never quit and quitters never win!’

It may be April already, but don’t give up on your good goal’s guys!

Come New Year 2020, you’ll be glad you persevered.

As long as we can remember that the ultimate goal is always happiness, this will not only help us to succeed but it’ll help us to Stay Present!

Em x

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