At the beginning of every New Year, I sit down and plan my year ahead. I write down my dreams, desires and goals.
Then I compile a list of ‘To Do’s’ to help me achieve them, which usually motivates me to get going.
To get busy weaving my dreams into reality.
But one thing 2020 has taught me is that, even my best laid plans can go awry. Although I had big goals for last year, the most important ones I achieved were not through planning or doing but through unforeseen circumstances and just going with the flow and ‘being’.
Spending more family ‘Us Time’ present in the moment and feeling relaxed and content just doing nothing, happened naturally during lockdown.
Having time to get both of my books completed and published arose from a misfortunate Covid-19 set of circumstances, forcing me to close my childcare business for months.
Appreciating friends and family more was another side effect of being kept apart from those I loved.
And being grateful for everything I had, such as my business, my home and family became enough to make me stop and see that- I already had everything I needed and wanted in life.
So today on January the 1st 2021, as I sit in the warm glow of sweet-scented candlelight, notebook and pen in hand, ready to plan 2021, there’s only one goal on my list this year and that’s simply to enjoy each and every moment with those I love.
For most of us that’s what they stay,
far off dreams or longing desires unfulfilled.
I know right now reading this, you can
think of one thing you’ve always wanted to do, be or achieve.
But for whatever reason life has gotten in the way?
You may have a number of reasons why
you can’t achieve your dreams and desires right now.
Maybe you are waiting for the children
to grow up?
Maybe you need more money or more time?
More knowledge, education or
Maybe someone else to help you?
Maybe inspiration to strike or
motivation to move you?
But I can guarantee you that in ten years’
time, you will still have one or more or maybe all, of the above to stop you
realising your dreams.
How do I know? Because just like you I
Ten years ago, I set out to write a
In that ten years I’ve had two
children to bring up, two businesses to run, hundreds of other children to care
for, family tragedy and illness, home extensions to contend with and about
twenty different educational courses to complete.
Now my young children are teens. I’ve
still got my businesses doing well. I’ve gained a massive amount of experience,
caring for so many different children and seeing therapy clients. I’ve overcome
the loss of loved ones and family illness. My home extension along with all my
educational courses are complete.
Yet one thing remains unfinished…….
Yes, my manuscript.
Don’t get me wrong its finished in so
far as its written. In fact, I’ve enough material for four books. Its just I’m
still editing it. And editing it. And yes, you’ve guessed it, still editing it.
I’m waiting for it to be perfect, then
I’ll wait for the perfect time. And then well quite frankly, if I keep waiting
that may never come.
Striving for perfection in an imperfect
world is impossible.
Perfectionism is the weed that thinks it’s
So, lets waste no more time striving for
As Charles Darwin was quoted as saying;
‘A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life.’
What do you need more time to do, be or
Tock Goes the Clock!
A clock tick for all of
us, silently somewhere. And one is ticking now for you.
One day it will be too late to; travel the world,
spend more time playing with the kids, to write that book, take that study course
or do that job.
Too late to find that
relationship that you’ve always dreamed of.
And too late to tell
someone you are sorry or that you love them.
Too late to be the real
you, the person deep inside that you know you can and want to be.
And too late to live the
life you deserve to live.
Now is the time to act. Today, this minute, is the only time you are promised.
Joan Rivers while she was
alive, was once quoted as saying
‘Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift, that’s why it’s called the present!’
The past is gone; the future is not guaranteed, but today, everything is possible.
‘No time’ – Is an excuse.
‘Later when the time is
right’ – Is procrastination.
Now is the time to act,
before our fears of time running out become a reality.
Time Stands Still for No Man or Woman
It’s ironic how time only
stands still, when something catastrophic happens in our lives.
Someone we love dies.
We receive a diagnosis from the doctor.
Our partner leaves us for someone else.
We lose our job or home.
Suddenly, it’s like we are frozen still in time.
For once, we stop being busy doing nothing, and
Bewildered by how everyone else is still busy around
us, getting on with their lives, oblivious to what is happening in our world.
Abruptly we wake from our dream or nightmare,
crashing back to reality with an urgency, to do those things we always wanted
to do, but just never had enough time.
We are all just waiting our whole lives for;
The time to be right.
To be ready.
To be old enough.
To have enough
experience, knowledge, support, money or time!
But when is the time ever
When will it be the right
time for you to follow your dreams, and live your life the way you want to?
What are you waiting for?
Your Own Business
Mind your own business
and you’ll see results. News, social media and so and so next door, is nothing
to do with you. Focus on where you are going and don’t get side tracked by
other people’s lives.
And never repress your dreams as unachievable right now. If you want to be a dancer dance now, if you want to be a singer, sing now, if you want to be an actor then act now, if you want to be an artist, paint now, and if you want to write, write now. Or whatever else it is, that you are yearning to do, have or become?
Another quote I love is by Audrey Hepburn;
‘Nothing is impossible, the word itself says I’m possible’
You got this!
Just start right now and never doubt
yourself. Leave that for others to waste their time doing and know that if
others are doubting you, it’s because of their own unfulfilled dreams, that they’ve
buried through fear.
Still feeling de motivated or
struggling to get started on your dreams and goals?
Don’t worry, we all need a cheering
squad sometimes. Unfortunately, the people we tend to turn to for support, such
as family and friends, can unintentionally influence us to go off course.
And even after ten years, I still feel
uncomfortable when I receive those blank stares and awkward silences, whenever I
admit that I’m writing a book.
But don’t give up!
When you find the right person to be
accountable to, your commitment and success ratio will increase considerably.
You’ll lose that weight, find that
dream job or partner, or get that book published!
You are imperfectly perfect for that role but if you want motivation and inspiration, then follow my blog for a weekly boost or let’s make friends on social media and support one another along the way.