New Year is a chance to reflect on the difficulties and adversity of the year gone by and to embrace the normal everyday, as the present it is. We all get thrown a curveball from time to time to remind us of what’s truly important. Ying and Yang, light and dark, they’re ever present and co-dependent on one another.
Often, they mean nothing but philosophical comparisons but it’s not until you experience the dark, do you cling onto the faith of a future light, and do you appreciate the need to know the difference between the two. When everything is going to plan, to connect to humanity and evoke empathy, every now and again, we need to experience those dark moments to remember those feelings.
We don’t hurt less but we heal quicker when we appreciate contrast and the dance of life that we came here to experience and co create.
Inner peace comes from being present and not ruminating on the past or worrying about the future. When we ruminate or worry, we waste so much of our precious lives that’s impossible to get back.
Bring your focus on the now and enjoy everything that’s already good about life. When you look around you there’s so much to appreciate and be thankful for. When we’re too busy focusing on the lack, we miss what’s actually important in life right now. You have so much to offer. It’s time to realise your value and what you contribute, rather than focusing on what’s missing or wrong.
Who needs your smile today?
Who wants that phone call?
What can you do to reward yourself for everything you’ve done during last year or for being the wonderful human being you are?
Don’t worry, be happy now, because you only grow through, what you go through.
On my daily
commute today, I’m reminded how autumn teaches us to let go and release what’s
no longer needed.
As the trees drop their dead leaves, they leave bare their branches, cold and naked they sway, not one fearing the inevitable, of exposure, of change, or of being left outside in the cold. They realise the beauty of the seasons, the purpose of life and why they change colour, and lose a part of themselves in autumn.
not isolated or alone, but are aware of the many other trees who just like them,
are leaving their branches bare. They are growing, they are changing and soon
they will blossom again. But for now, they leave a crunchy, carpet of golden
and red leaves beneath our feet, a sign for us to see, hear or even feel their presence,
or maybe a gift for us to notice them and what they have to offer our world?
We can see
their offerings as mess and clutter on our path?
Or we can be
grateful for the reminder that its time for us to change too?
We have the
option to release the old version of ourselves and face our naked fears, and in
doing so, we realise we are not alone. We can accept the releasing of others
and the changes they are going through, without pushing those leaves aside, as
disregarded debris on our journey. As winter turns the days dark, and the
bitter bite of cold chills our souls, we are comforted to know, others too are
keep safe, keep yourself connected to nature and the real world, of real people
you love, have loved or want to love, and know that spring is already on its
you must, but don’t forget to sow some seeds, ready to bloom when the summer
sun makes you feel young, free and full of zesty energy once more.
For like the
seasons emotions come and go, the environment changes too, and this is true not
just for You but for everyone You know.
Sometimes in life we all find ourselves swimming against the current, and that’s okay, as long as we keep swimming!
As long as you do not allow your negative thoughts
and feelings, to drown you to the point that you feel like giving up, then you
will somehow, from somewhere, find that inner strength that you need to bring
you back to shore safely.
Since you once were the strongest swimmer of sperm, please know you have a purpose. You’re luckily unique and yes, the world needs YOU, more than you’ll ever know. You are always loved by a force you’ll never be able to see, hear or always feel. But that love once made you, no matter how you were conceived? And that love is going to find you again, when you have faith, hold on, and believe.
So, when that tidal wave surges towards you full force, keep swimming, no matter what, or float with the current until it weakens. Going with the flow is sometimes the only option.
You can’t stop it, and you can’t control it.
Just keep going through it, or surf the crest of
that wave until you get over it.
Often the hardest thing about my job is, encouraging clients who are feeling down, to stay positive. Especially when they are over coming traumatic events or suffering physically in some way.
But even harder still, is trying to encourage
clients who are feeling down to stay positive, when I am feeling down or going
through a crisis myself.
We all get them days or periods in our life, they
are unavoidable at times.
Yet, they are the times more than anything else,
that require a positive perspective.
Everyone has stress, worries or challenges in their lives, no one is immune, but its attitude that helps us to overcome them.
A negative, defeatist attitude, is never going to help to make things better. In fact, it makes things worse. On the other hand, a positive, ‘I can deal with this and get through it’ attitude’ Will make things seem better, and will in most cases make the outcome better too. This doesn’t mean there will always be a happy ending but it’s never actually what happens to us that’s the problem, it’s how we react or respond to it.
Stuff happens in life to all of us, good and bad. We
just need to start noticing the good more, and not let the bad get the better
I know first- hand that that is easier said than
done, but what are the options?
Feeling sad and miserable, powerless and negatively
defeated, doesn’t bare thinking about, but understandable and naturally normal
at challenging times in our lives.
We can help to decrease those times and increase the good times though. By simply trying to feel positive, motivated and thankful at those ‘normal’ times in our life, when nothing is going wrong, but when we tend to find ourselves worrying about things going wrong, before they have.
This can help us to deal with things, if and when they do actually happen, without that feeling of heavy overwhelm. Stress is not the problem, constant, compounded stress is!
So today I challenge you, in your ordinary day,
full of the usual financial / family/ work/ relationship woes, to be mindful of
all the good already in your life, right now in this moment.
Appreciate if you can, the perfection in the normal,
boring and the mundane?
Be grateful if nothing else for your health. And if your health isn’t all that healthy at the moment, know that feeling bad won’t make you feel better. However, appreciating the fact that we are breathing, is enough when we think of those we have loved, who aren’t any longer.
And as long as we are breathing, and coming up in
between for air, that’s a sign that we’re alive, and things can always get
better in the sea of life!