Love is in the air again.
It’s that time that loved up hopeless romantic’s love, and lonely singletons loathe – Valentine’s Day!
But whether you’re single, in the honeymoon period of a new relationship, or have been married for years, there’s one person that deserves your love more than anyone else – YOU!
‘You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.’ Buddha
Loving yourself doesn’t mean blowing kisses to yourself in the mirror in a narcissistic way (although that could be a good place to start?)
Healthy self- love is about speaking to yourself like you would a loved one, in a supportive, caring way, and taking good care of your health and well- being.
IF YOU HAVEN’T GOT ANYTHING NICE TO SAY, SAY IT ANYWAY!
As we grow up, we start listening to other people’s opinions about us, and any criticism received we tend to remember. Then when things go wrong or we make mistakes, we tell ourselves that others peoples negative views were right. We then add to them by mentally berating ourselves, turning other people’s false opinions of us into self -fulfilling prophecies i.e., a reality.
You can be more loving towards yourself by remembering that any criticism from another person is just their opinion, and as long as you don’t believe it and join in with the hate campaign, then it’s not true.
In life there is The Truth and there’s a truth. And truth is subjective to each and everyone one of us. Is Marmite disgusting? I know what I think but that’s my truth.
Affirmations are a great way to practice loving yourself more, they are simply positive statements said in the present tense.
So, whenever you make a mistake, instead of calling yourself ‘Stupid’ reassure yourself that you are always doing your best and say; ‘I am doing the best that I can at this time, and my best is always good enough’ and repeat this affirmation often.
Loving the skin we’re in can be difficult at times as we tend to focus on the bits we don’t like and ignore the good bits. Yet, this is the body you have and that takes care of you, it seems only fair to show it the same kind of care and love back. If there’s something you dislike like your weight remember, your body didn’t do this to you, you do to your body.
Take a look at your body each morning in the mirror and focus on the bits you love; you might have nice legs or a nice smile?
The more you can practice loving and accepting yourself exactly as you are today, the more likely you will be to take care of your physically body, and that means if there’s bits you dislike now, then in the future with time and loving care, they will change for the better. Focusing on our negative aspects only makes us feel worse about ourselves, and when we don’t feel good, we are more inclined to poison ourselves with alcohol, cigarettes, drugs and junk food.
• LOVE FOOD & FOOD WILL LOVE YOU
If we can form a healthy, loving relationship with food, such as choosing to eat nutritious, natural foods, like fresh fruit and vegetables, lean meat and fish, and drinking plenty of water, then food will love us back and give us the energy and nutrients to keep us healthy mentally and physically.
• WORK YOUR BODY
Loving ourselves means taking care of our bodies. We need to keep as active as we can on a daily basis to burn calories, increase our energy levels, and to release feel good chemicals in our brain.
Our bodies are designed to move about, so move whenever you can. You don’t need to go to the gym to keep fit, just move. Doing house work, walking the dog, dancing, playing with the children, all burn calories, so get up and get going now, your body will love you for it!
• EDUCATE YOURSELF
Learning is a life long process. Expanding our knowledge keeps our mental health in order and helps us to navigate life with more clarity and understanding. Broaden your horizons and take up a new hobby or study programme to keep those brain cells firing and re wiring. Neuroplasticity was once believed to only occur in childhood but now research has shown how we are never too old to learn new things and change our brains for the better.
MAKE A DATE WITH YOURSELF
No Valentine to take you to the cinema?
Then go it alone, or make time for yourself to do those things you love. A soak in a bubble bath with a magazine, a cuppa and a good book, painting, fishing, football, knitting, whatever you choose to do, schedule time in your diary to prioritise YOU Time!
• TREAT YOURSELF
You may not have a partner to spoil you this Valentine’s Day, but you are still worth treating, so spoil yourself.
A treat once in a while can make us feel good, so go and buy yourself some chocolate, perfume, aftershave, flowers, beer or bubbly and a take- away, and curl up on the sofa with yourself. This way at least someone loves you, and you’ll never leave you if you love yourself right, and once you truly love yourself, others will love you too!
Don’t forget, there are a lot of friends, family and lovers you’ve yet to meet, who are looking for you.
HAPPY VALENTINES’ DAY EVERYONE!
If you want to learn more about sports, science and nutrition and how you can love yourself and others more, then you’ll find my favourite courses here click the pink button for more info
And as a special Valentines gift from me, use coupon code emma
Love Em x