Embarking Into 2020, a new decade, my only goal was self- love and nurturing. My New Year’s Resolution was clear, and unlike many I’ve made in the past I actually stuck to this one, which was no alcohol during Dry January.
As a result, I’ve not only detoxed my body of all those toxins but I’ve naturally ate a lot healthier and less than I would have, had I succumbed to my ruby rioja.
Now as I approach February the month of love, my focus is shifting to loving others. But we can only truly love others when we learn to love and respect ourselves.
There’s a true saying;
‘If you don’t love yourself, then who will?’
We must look after and love ourselves, mistakes, imperfections and all.
If there’s something we don’t love about ourselves, then others may not love that aspect of us either.
Not because it’s not lovable, but because we will transmit the message of how we feel about ourselves to other people that we meet.
Our partners may think we are beautiful, but if we think we are ugly, over time, we will start to dress and look the way we feel.
Self-love shouldn’t be reliant on others loving us though.
We should replace any damaging, empty, unhealthy relationship with another, for a more meaningful, loving relationship with ourselves.
Getting to know who we really are as individuals is self-love. The relationship we have with ourselves influences all the other relationships in our lives, and our love for ourselves is more important than any other love we may, or may not, receive from others.
Fat, thin, rich, poor, happy, or depressed, it makes no odds; you can love yourself regardless of who you think you are, or however your past may have been.
Loving yourself does not need to depend on past or future events or relationships. Anyone can start afresh today and learn to love themselves, no matter what.
It’s the single most loving thing we can do for those we love.
We are ALL important in some one’s life, so we must take good care of our own health and happiness. Should we become ill, we would not be in a position to love and care for them. Surely If only to keep us in a strong position to take care of our loved ones, that’s all the motivation we need to ensure we love and care for ourselves?
We need to learn to love ourselves the same way we love our parents, children, partners, and friends.
We will always feel loving, loved, and lovable when we surround ourselves only with people and things that we love.
As babies, we love everything, even the ordinary is extraordinary.
Yet, somewhere along the line, as we learn to compartmentalise and realise what things are and what they do, we lose our love. It’s as though the magic is lost.
The secret is to start to notice, love and appreciate it all again.
Even the neglected old dried out potted plant in the corner and the junk in the drawer.
If we don’t, then we are going to let it go and release it to someone who will give it the love and attention that it deserves. Leaving us only with those things that we love.
When we are surrounded by love, it flows freely to others, so it’s time to let go and free up some more space for things we love, as opposed to hanging onto things, we’ve accumulated for no reason.
Look at your house hold belongings and choose a category, such as books, and go through your whole house looking for books, discarding or giving away those, you no longer want or need.
Then store the rest in one place in your home, ideally on a bookshelf.
It’s easier to choose categories, rather than individual rooms, as most of us scatter our belongings throughout the house. This is especially true if, we share our house with others such as our children.
Clutter can zap us of our energy and old things can stagnate.
After this de cluttering process, we will feel good, it’s not only quite cathartic but it frees up space for nice, new things.
Having fresh space and only surrounding ourselves with things we love, we look and feel better. From now on promise yourself that, you will use and love everything you own.
Surround yourself with beautiful furniture, music, ornaments, paintings, photos, books, candles, scents, pets or plants, that uplift you, and use them all.
Next go through your make up collection, throwing out any make up passed its use by date. Most cosmetics have a twelve-month shelf life.
Then jewellery boxes, discarding any fashion items that may have changed colour or gone out of fashion.
Potions and lotions such as perfume and shower gels or fancy soaps, need to be used.
Don’t keep them for special occasions, every day you are breathing is a special day, so look, feel and smell special.
Soaps are meant to dissolve and candles are meant to be burnt. When kept for any other purpose they go off and gather dust.
When we hold onto things, it’s like saying we don’t deserve them, or we are unsure if we will ever be able to afford them again?
But we are special, and we are deserving of everything we own.
That’s why it’s ours in the first place. We can always replace what we use in the future, for something even better.
When we are surrounded by love, it flows freely to others and by making space in our environment we are inviting love in by creating room for it.
Looking for love?
There are 7.7 billion people in the world as of October 2019, according to the most recent United Nations estimates. Just ponder that thought for a moment.
That’s a lot of people.
A lot of friends, family and lovers you’ve yet to meet, will never meet and who are looking for you.
Your Time is the Present, Enjoy the Gift,