We all need goals to succeed in life but it’s not just about the end result.
On the journey towards our goal, our own happiness along the way, is more important than the end destination of achieving the goal itself.
It’s all about the day to day process of creating or learning that is significant. We all want to succeed in achieving our goals to feel good, therefore feeling good is the ultimate goal.
With that in mind, here are some pointers that can help us to feel good while working towards our goals.
We need goals that personally mean something to us. If we have a goal to quit smoking because our partner wants us to, we are less likely to stick at it and succeed.
It’s good to keep the end result in mind but sometimes this can be overwhelming, especially to begin with. Break goals down into small, easy, manageable steps and work towards goals gradually.
Goals give us direction and intention in the moment, but we can only find enthusiasm and motivation, if the steps that lead to our goals are enjoyable and worthwhile.
Goals need to be achievable. If our ambitions are getting us down or are too difficult and challenging, they’ll only serve to make us feel defeated, instead of successful.
Wanting to lose weight for example, is not specific enough. We have to decide how much weight we want to lose exactly. What’s the ideal weight we are aiming for or clothes size we want to be?
When exactly do you want to achieve your goal?
By July the fourth 2019 is a definite date and better than saying, ‘Before I go on holiday’
You are more likely to achieve your goal with a time scale set.
By being specific about what you want and when, you can measure how you are doing.
If your goal is to lose 2 stone by July 2019 and you’ve already lost a stone by November 2018, you know you are half way there and that it’s a realistic goal that’s achievable.
Decide that today is going to be the day you start.
Set a goal and stick to it!
Then give it all you’ve got, unless of course it’s not working.
Sometimes things change, so don’t be afraid to change your goals if needs be.
There’s little point carrying on in pursuit of a goal, if it’s no longer suitable, working or fulfilling us in some way.
It’s hard to recover and bounce back from failure or challenges, if our only focus is on successfully achieving a goal.
Switching our focus to the process of learning, and prioritising our happiness and well -being along the way, will build resilience.
Resilience comes from understanding that it’s not failure or what goes wrong that’s the problem, it’s our own expectations and how we deal with it, and how good we are at being able to pick ourselves back up again and carry on.
We need to build inner strength and faith.
We may not always see how something is going to turn out or know exactly what we have to do?
But we can still stay faithful to our goals and dreams.
Every cloud has a silver lining, if we can identify any good that comes from seemingly negative experiences, then we will be more inclined to learn and bounce back from them, and try again.
By keeping focused on the positive and looking for the good in everything, we will eventually find it, and less likely to feel helplessly beaten by negativity.
Sometimes it’s just a case of changing our perspective, other times our behaviour.
Our actions and the way we feel, is important to reaching our goals.
No one else can actually make us feel happy, upset or angry.
How we feel is our own responsibility.
It’s up to us to choose our response, we have the ability to respond to others and circumstances any way we choose. When we can take responsibility and still stay positive and upbeat when others aren’t, or when things are not going right, we will be the master of our own emotions and be able achieve our goals no matter what.
We are not a failure if we don’t succeed or reach our goals, we are a success because we tried.
As Edison said about discovering a certain filament, in inventing an electric light bulb;
‘I didn’t fail a thousand times; I found a thousand ways that it wouldn’t work!’
Despite the many failures, he eventually found that filament, had he given up trying, we may all still be sat in the dark today?
His best teacher was failure. Keep that in mind before you even consider giving up!
Edison was also quoted as saying;
‘Many of life’s failures are, people who didn’t realise how close they were to success when they gave up.’
When the going gets tough remember this motto:
‘Winners never quit and quitters never win!’
It may be April already, but don’t give up on your good goal’s guys!
Come New Year 2020, you’ll be glad you persevered.
As long as we can remember that the ultimate goal is always happiness, this will not only help us to succeed but it’ll help us to Stay Present!